Really! This will be short, maybe.
My husband has a long awaited three day weekend. We are a multigenerational family with grandparents, parents, and grandchildren living in the same household. It has been that way since the oldest grandchild was just eight months old. She turned eight years old yesterday. Not often does she have opportunity to spend one on one time with her grandpa. So he took her out for ice cream to the local Dairy Queen. I expected them to be gone for awhile but they returned pretty quickly.
Apparently every person in the DQ was giving him dirty looks. He’s a scruffy man, but a gentle soul.
He gets that a lot here in the Midwest. Usually it doesn’t bother him too much when he’s alone. It is less severe when he’s with me. I’m obviously a very happy wife. But the response while taking his granddaughter out made it so unpleasant that they left early. Our granddaughter is a cheerful happy child, especially when she gets individual time with anyone of her adult progenitors. Couldn’t people see that instead of giving the impression they view him as some lecherous old man?
I’m incensed by how he’s perceived. I love his scruffy look! He actually grows his hair long for me, he doesn’t shave because his dermatologist told him it’s better not to after having skin cancer removed three times. I prefer him with face hair but he wouldn’t grow anything but a mustache for me. (Bless that dermatologist!) He looks the way he does because he wants to please his wife. Occasionally he’ll ask me to give him a short haircut and I oblige for his preferences.
I just wish people would not judge him, or anyone else, on appearances. I want to know a person for who they are, not what they look like. If you, my reader, find yourself doing that at some point, stop and consider that the person may not be at all what you think. Consider that others may judge you in ways that are not fair to you simply because you don’t have smile or you’ve been grubbing in the garden or you’ve been in an accident or for some reason you seem outwardly to be something you are not. Be careful that you do not judge others.