Don’t Judge on Appearances

Really! This will be short, maybe.

Grandma Peachy profile 1My husband has a long awaited three day weekend. We are a multigenerational family with grandparents, parents, and grandchildren living in the same household. It has been that way since the oldest grandchild was just eight months old. She turned eight years old yesterday. Not often does she have opportunity to spend one on one time with her grandpa. So he took her out for ice cream to the local Dairy Queen. I expected them to be gone for awhile but they returned pretty quickly.

Apparently every person in the DQ was giving him dirty looks. He’s a scruffy man,  but a gentle soul.

Being scruffy isn’t a crime, but it seems that scruffy grandpa’s can’t take their charmingly cute granddaughters out in public without people making automatic judgements about him.

He gets that a lot here in the Midwest. Usually it doesn’t bother him too much when he’s alone. It is less severe when he’s with me. I’m obviously a very happy wife. But the response while taking his granddaughter out made it so unpleasant that they left early.  Our granddaughter is a cheerful happy child, especially when she gets individual time with anyone of her adult progenitors. Couldn’t people see that instead of giving the impression they view him as some lecherous old man?

I’m incensed by how he’s perceived. I love his scruffy look! He actually grows his hair long for me, he doesn’t shave because his dermatologist told him it’s better not to after having skin cancer removed three times. I prefer him with face hair but he wouldn’t grow anything but a mustache for me. (Bless that dermatologist!) He looks the way he does because he wants to please his wife. Occasionally he’ll ask me to give him a short haircut and I oblige for his preferences.

I just wish people would not judge him, or anyone else, on appearances. I want to know a person for who they are, not what they look like. If you, my reader, find yourself doing that at some point, stop and consider that the person may not be at all what you think. Consider that others may judge you in ways that are not fair to you simply because you don’t have smile or you’ve been grubbing in the garden or you’ve been in an accident or for some reason you seem outwardly to be something you are not.  Be careful that you do not judge others.


Grandma Peachy

About grandmapeachy

I am a retired grandmother and amateur quilter. Generally I do not discuss religion and politics with people other than my family and even then I do more listening than talking. Because I dislike confrontation this blog is a way for me to express opinions that I hold on these and other issues without having to delve into controversial discussions with others who may not agree with me. I am also an avid supporter of indie authors. There are a lot of great books that are not available through traditional publishing and I believe that these stories need to be brought to the attention of the reading public.
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4 Responses to Don’t Judge on Appearances

  1. My dad once got asked to leave a pub in the UK which he went to on his way home from work. They didn’t approve of bikers. He went back into the car park, took off his leathers, grabbed his helmet, walked back in and was served a beer. Why coz he had a suit on underneath his leathers. I bet they felt like right idiots. 😀 Loved the way he won that one

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  2. Candi Fox says:

    I know exactly what you are going thru. My Granddaddy Woodcock was a pecan farmer in Georgia who had a health distaste for the government and banks. He kept all his cash buried in coffee cans under the pecan trees. He when to the Chevrolet Dealership one day to buy a new truck when he was about 75. He was dressed in overalls that had seen better days but had no holes in the pockets. He had on his straw hat and those people would not even look at him. He waited and waited and no one even said hello. He asked for some assistance and was told they only help people who can afford to buy a car.
    My Grandaddy walked across a 6 lane highway to the Chrysler Dealership across the street. He proceeded to buy a brand new Dodge Ram Truck with all the bells and whistles…..He then drove back across the street to shove their noses in it… The other dealership came over to get his old truck. He paid cash in full. No one should be judged by their appearance this day in age anyways. How wrong it is to condemn someone for taking their granddaughter to have Ice Cream, when they can’t even pull up their pants.

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    • My dad used to tell a story about a very wealthy man he knew back east. The man always looked unkempt, even in a $1000 suit. One time he wanted to take my dad out to dinner at a fancy restaurant. They turned him away because he was not dressed appropriately. He was treated rudely and that made him angry shoe bought out that restaurant and fired the people who had been rude. My dad would have been 106 on the first of May do that was a very long time ago! But now then tolerance is so touted we still have people who are judgmental. I am glad I won’t have that to answer for on judgement day.

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