Today is my birthday, I’m not ashamed of my age, I’m 62 years old today. This is a special birthday for me. Even Google has a special banner just for me on my birthday! Later this morning I am going to have a birthday brunch with my daughter and her family and a young couple that will be married this afternoon.
Now the story of this day may shock and appall some of my family and friends. But this is my blog, my opinions, and my decision to share. Last year I was asked to officiate a marriage, in order to be able to do that I signed up with Open Ministries to be ordained as a minister. I never thought I’d be officiating another wedding, but that is what I will be doing this afternoon. The thing that will be shocking to my family and friends is that the happy couple are both women. Not only that, the ceremony will have some religious elements. Both young women were brought up in homes where faith played an important part. One was raised in a Jehovah’s Witness home and the other a Christian home. So their life choice has been opposed by most of their family. The religious influence, however, is not completely lost to them.
Before anyone has a chance to object to my decision to perform this ceremony I’d like to give my reasoning. Years ago God answered my prayer asking Him what He wanted me to do to serve Him. I had just left a church and a bus ministry that I had loved doing until an event occurred that devastated the ministry. I was at a loss of how to serve him when I was not in a church. His still small voice, very clearly said to me, “Love my people.” I knew immediately He was not speaking just of those who believe in Him and are already called by His name, he meant all of mankind, any person that would cross my path in this life.
I believe that the way to bring any person into the knowledge of Truth is not to reject, condemn, or bully them into believing as I do. The only way to bring people into the knowledge of Truth is to love them into the Kingdom. That is what I am doing. Whatever my personal opinion, it is not my place to make judgement, that is God’s territory. The Bible does say that we are to obey the laws of man as long as it does not prevent us from obeying the laws of God, first is to love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and soul, the second to love your neighbor as yourself. So for me, this act of officiating a marriage that others may not approve is an act of love on my part. I am not threatened by the union of two women in a marriage that is now legal throughout the country. I do not believe that God will condemn me for doing this. He knows my heart. I trust Him, His mercy, and His promises to me.
On another note, my daughter related something that one of her Bible college professors told them in class. During those early Biblical days the society did not view homosexuality as we do today. The problem was one of pure lust and it was not uncommon for people to engage in sexual activity with someone of the same sex. Love was never a part of that scenario. Today, with so many abortions it occurs to me that many of those who choose to love someone of the same gender may not have an opposite gender mate because the one designed just for them was aborted. It is a thought and something that my husband and I have discussed many times. So when two people of the same gender love one another and find happiness apart from just the sexual side of a relationship it is not the same scenario as that of men lusting after men and women lusting after women as addressed in the Old Testament. That culture would never have understood our view of homosexuality.
That discussion aside, today is a first for me in my 62 years, maybe a last, who knows. But I will celebrate and have a memorable birthday. This is also my brother and his wife’s 52nd anniversary. A wedding in my youth and a wedding in my older years to remember and commemorate my birthday. How much better can it get?
Have a wonderfully blessed day!